Last night I encountered my very first experience of social media bullying/trolling/unkindness, however you choose to refer to it. I was truly astounded at the length that people go to and the TIME they have in order to pick arguments and just basically try and bully. They obviously picked the wrong person to mess with 💪🏼😉but that’s not the point at all. Had I been a person that lets people behind a screen/keyboard affect me then lord knows what would’ve happened. I can see how easy it is to be sucked into arguments online but social media is not reality, please please remember that, and if you’re ever in that position, just know that these are non confrontational people that only have the courage to do such a thing whilst hiding behind their screen
#bekind #stopbullying #socialmedia #standupforyourself #standupforwhatsright #kindnessmatters #opinionsmatter
I was chatting to a friend today and had a massive epiphany!!! A few days ago I made a decision to take a stand against something that I felt was wrong. Although it was a very uncomfortable thing to do, I felt uneasy about accepting it and pushing it aside... I knew that I had to honour myself and take action - makes sense - yes?? What hit me was that maybe it doesn’t for many people!! Many just accept their current situation, choose to do nothing and sit in their comfort zone... avoid possible conflict/discomfort - BUT WHY? Maybe because, as my beautiful friend wisely said, they ‘chose comfort over courage’ BOOM!! @simoneoutteridge1
I LOVE this so much that I’m going to nick it and claim it as mine (and thank you for gracefully allowing me to do so AND for your support 🖤) My epiphany??... I stand for taking action - it’s in the words on my website, in my SM posts, I gently but persistently encourage my clients to move from their comfort zone, take action and move toward their vision and dreams - I just do it! I’ve spent so much of my life sitting in discomfort that maybe it doesn’t scare me as much as it does others...SO the moral of this story is?? Just do it! Take the leap, move from discomfort to courage, make it happen...if you don’t do it for yourself no one else will do it for you. If you need some help, support, guidance and a little push in the right direction get in touch...I’m ready and waiting to help you take a stand and a leap from where you are now to where you want to be. Www.missmoneypennypresents.com #courage #liveyourlife #takeaction #decidecommitsucceed #makeithappen #coach #money #mindset #moneymindset #brave #vision #dream #standupforyourself #motivation #succeed
It’s ok if you don’t know what to feel, if you don’t know what you want and if you want to work things out as you go.
It’s ok to not want something you worked so hard on getting, after realising it isn’t what you thought it was or would be.
It’s ok to change your mind, make mistakes, to walk away from someone you once loved, from something that once meant the world to you.
It’s ok, because this is your life, your cause, your body, your beliefs, your mind, your heart and your feelings. This is your journey.
You don’t need validation or acceptance from any other person, except you and I hope it doesn’t take you a lifetime to realise that.
#dowhatyouwant #dowhatmakesyouhappy #live #laugh #love #learn #makemistakes #grow #noregrets #lessonslearned #standupforyourself #beyourself #dontchangeforanyone #loseyourself #loseeverything #myheart #mysoul #mylife #livingit #neversettle #extraordinaryiswhereitsat #knowwhatiwant #andillhaveit #GWB #wefittogether #fitchicks #fitmom #twinmom #girlswholift #activewear
What a Sunday..... After coming home last night from the float trip yesterday, I knew I was going to have a rough night.... I ended up have a Mast Cell reaction when I came home. I took my medications and it helped stop the full reaction. But after laying in bed for a few hours I started throwing up (tmi I know), but I tried to talk it up to sun poisioning. I took all my nausea medications, it helped me fall asleep. I laid around all day and rested after yesterday, I needed it. But around 6, I started to have a reaction, so I dosed with premeds and hoped for the best. I wasn't getting better, so I went to the er. After handing them my Mast Cell protocol, they took one look at it and said they were not going to do all of that. Mind you, I have a document signed by my Mast Cell specialist, on what they are suppose to do, the NP took one look and said with her best medical judgement, she was just gonna do the steriod shot. I was so mad. But they gave me my shot and sent me out of the door. Hopefully it helps even though, I know it won't. I should have advocated for myself, but I didn't. I'm disappointed with that hospital and with myself.
#advocate #advocateforyourself #standupforyourself #butdontpassout #butyousontlooksick #disappointedinmyself #carelessdoctors #somad #chronicillness #chronicillnessawareness #chronicillnesswarrior #posturalorthostatictachycardiasyndrome #mastcellactivationdisorder #elhersdanlossyndrome #potsyndrome #mcas #mcad
When the sharpest words wanna cut me down
I'm gonna send a flood, gonna drown them out
I am brave, I am bruised
I am who I'm meant to be, this is me
Look out 'cause here I come
And I'm marching on to the beat I drum
I'm not scared to be seen
I make no apologies, this is me 🔥
Secrets make you sick.
I’ve been dealing with something for awhile now and this secret has made me physically and mentally sick. I often can’t sleep at night laying in bed thinking about what has happened. It’s painful and I want it to just go away.
I have been an artist & inventor since I was a little girl. Literally, I have notebooks full of ideas and drawings. I am always thinking of how to make something better, or more useful - it is just who I am. If you know me at all, you know that I just love to create things. It is something I can’t explain but if you are an artist, you get it.
My “insta-fame” has shown me that the world isn’t always nice and definitely not as perfect as it seems on Instagram. People aren’t always who they say they are and I take full responsibility for being the gullible idiot who believed them.
It is time now however, for me to put my big girl pants on & just deal with it... instead of hoping it resolves itself. I avoid conflict at all costs. Are you like that too?
Tonight I realized that the “cost” is actually more valuable than anything money could buy.
The cost is
my self respect
my hard work
You can’t put a price tag on those things. Conflict is sometimes necessary and I finally now see my worth.
I don’t know if you are like me and avoid conflict at all costs but, if your cost is higher than what it is worth, don’t avoid it. Stand up for your worth. You deserve better.
#atwhatcost #standupforyourself #secretsmakeyousick
My art on a real face!! I saw someone try to take credit for this and other things I spent so much of my life doing and it broke my heart. :). #standupforyourself #dontcopyanartist
Don’t forget you’re awesome and perfect in every way! A lot of people every day are struggling with bullying. I’m about to sound like all the teachers but what they’re saying is true. You can make a difference. Stand up for someone. Anyone you see being treated badly or anything you feel is unjust. DTAND UP FOR IT!
My best friend brought this up and I thought it was something that really needed to be shared. @angelinarodriguez1235
please go follow her and like her recent.
#bullyawareness #bullying #benice #benicetopeople #lifeisbeautiful #whynot #standupforyourself
I’m a wreck.
Honestly, that’s true pretty often.
But here’s the thing:
I’ve moved homes (& states) a lot.
Rented an apartment full of issues with despondent management.
Took too much of the load associated with bosses whom fail to do their jobs even when assisted.
Cringed through the most disrespectful, entitled roommate I’ve ever encountered.
Had relationships crumble in spectacular ways while being assured, “it’s not your fault!”
Been told I was a horrible person for holding others accountable for their shit.
Took hormones out of my birth control situation, lending PTSD some new notes and habits & introducing cystic acne to my once clear skin. ...
Basically, when I actually think about it, it’s okay that I’ve been a wreck. It’s warranted. Amidst it all, I’m learning to stick up for myself, even when it isn’t pretty. I’m learning to only accept what I deserve and step back when situations are unfair or unfavorable.
I’m growing. & sometimes being a wreck is going to be a part of that process. As long as I keep trying, there’s nothing wrong with that 🖤
Some days I wake up and it’s as if there is no longer color to my world. Other days I wake up and my world radiates rainbows. I’ve learned it’s ok to have depression and to feel everything so deeply. It’s ok to wake up some days and feel pain. The biggest lesson I’ve learned is I don’t have to suffer alone and neither do you. 🌈🌪🙏🏻
(Continued from previous post) You have to become all the things they say about you.
You have to become them.. in either recognizing that either is who you are, or are not. You have to be able to tell yourself “no that’s not me, that’s them projecting.”
Because sometimes all this stuff will be happening... and you’ll stop to take another breath and look around and all of a sudden, the trail has disappeared and you don’t know where you veered off but now you don’t know where you are or where to go.
I have to embrace the fact that with wrestling, I don’t have a clear path like so many others do. I have to embrace the fact that with wrestling, I’ve already got most of the deck stacked against me. I have to embrace the fact that with wrestling, I will always be having to prove my value.
Through realizing and accepting these things, I am learning to trust my intuition and my gut more.
Like I did with this trail when somehow I was so enveloped in my thoughts I really got off path and when I stopped and turned around, my breath was literally taken away. Out of beauty... and then fear. .
Such an amazing amazing view. Yet, the thought of “you’re lost and don’t know what you’re doing” still creeped back in. It always will you guys.
You just have to be the one to say, “nah brain. We got this. We will figure this out and make it work. We will be okay. Even if we are lost, this ain’t a bad place to be.”
Smaller side note.. sometimes being in a lost place can be the best because that’s the space where you find yourself which is what I think we are all really searching for anyhow.
I hope you recognize where you’re lost, and realize that it’s okay.
I hope you recognize that you will want to quit and when you’re wanting to quit, and choose to continue on anyways.
I hope you recognize how far you’ve come.
I hope you recognize all the places still left to go on your journey.
And I hope you recognize the gift and lesson that each day brings you.
You can do hard things. You just have decide that you can and follow though for yourself. Don’t let yourself down.
Happy Sunday 💜
I want to talk about quitting for a second this morning. This hike I went on last Monday was seriously so so good for my soul that I can even explain all the little mini breakthroughs I had whilst on it.
One of the recurring themes though was wanting to quit. I wanted to quit before I even started because I didn’t have my headphones and I was alone. I wanted to be alone... but being alone scares me. Especially when I’m in unfamiliar territory LIKE A FOREST 🌲 🌳 🌲 🌳
I still started though. Then I wanted to quit shortly in because there were these rocks and basically I couldn’t see the trail anymore and I wish I got a picture of it but I had to scale the side of this mountain, it sounds more dramatic than it is I promise but it was still scary to me. Because it was a steep fall if I messed up. Into a shallow river. Soooo yeah... but I did it! And I kept on walking...
There were several parts along the steep, sort of high incline, rocky, muddy since it had been raining all afternoon, trail that I wanted to quit because I couldn’t breathe.
I am starting to like cardio but we aren’t bffs yet. Hahaha I was so out of breath sometimes, that on the exhale, I would just start crying because I couldn’t do anything else. It felt like a reflex. I couldn’t tell myself “there’s no reason to cry, just stop it.” Like my body itself was so exhausted, that’s all I could do.
But I kept on.
After one of these mini breakdowns, which thank god the trail wasn’t that popular that day because that would have been fun to explain hahaha.. anywho so after one breakdown..
I took these two photos. The first one is looking up at the trail and what lies in front of me to conquer. The second photo is of the trail and how far I had come.
The first photo made me groan and want to kick rocks and whine and all that because I KNEW it was gonna be work. I knew I was gonna wanna quit and turn around.
But then I did.. and I saw how far I had came.. and I just couldn’t you guys. I couldn’t start my descent until I knew I had gone as close to the top or the finish line so to speak, as I could.
(Continued on next post)
Quote of the day from the amazing Steve Jobs:
'Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow know what you truly want to become.' 💗💗💗
Holywood: Where you can go to get harassed by teenage boys and no one bats an eyelid.
So I know I'm not the minority when it comes to this kind of thing but I am SO SICK of getting harassed by men!! Like the wolf whistles and comments from passers by, obviously are unacceptable but it's unfortunately an everyday thing. The social media harassment again is not unusual but it's easy to block people there. But today a boy physically grabbed me behind the neck! I don't know what he was planning to do but I had to push him off me. Worse than that is that all the people around me just pretended like nothing happened!! WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?! Why is apparently acceptable for some men to roam around doing whatever they please 'for a laugh' or whatever shit excuse they use at the expense of someone else, 99% of the time a female? And for everyone else to just think that's ok?! Also attached is an example of someone who I've blocked on all social media sites that resorted to LinkedIn to message me and got upset when I'd had enough of it after 10+ years and called him out.
#happysunday #holywood #northernireland #Belfast #standupforyourself #harassment #sickofit #women #dontignoreit #stalkers #everydaysexism #feminism #metoo
Boundaries. Lines in the sand. Sometimes we teach with water, sometimes with fire.
If your needs aren’t being met, why are you there?
Equal rights for others does not mean less rights for yourself.
Boundaries have been a huge issue in my life. When you don't know how love, safety or boundaries feel like, it's very hard to be able to create it, attract it or even seek it.
I've been more considerate to other people's feelings, than my own. I didn't even know how I felt, because I wasn't present in my body. ☉
Now, to be able to have boundaries, you have to put yourself first.
We have a subconscious idea that this is selfish, or some of us are even told that right to our face, or we tell ourselves everyday.
It's not selfish, it's the only way to heal. With proper boundaries, we can pour from our well of love, energy and resources without losing ourselves, and without draining us.
Here follows a poem about boundaries from my blog detonatord.com :
hard earned integrity
Learned by severity
Churned in scarcity
of love, thinking I was good
A misinterpreted longing
to be understood
I gave away my power
thinking that I should
give up everything
I thought this
I didn’t know
when I wanted
you to see me
All the while
I had to
be the one
to free me
light and dark
to be me
To put up
might seem aggressive
A massive change
to your surroundings
They can’t see
you are mounting
Your life is up hill
for every boundary
You’re back is straightened
by the integrity
you shouldn’t have
But if you’re lacking
anger is your saviour
The darkness is there
Without recognition you might
explode in confession
Or you’re like me
You implode by the pressure
to drown in self loathing
beyond any measure
Life came without
you’ve got to
fight for your integrity
But every step
is worth it
Like self worth
you have to birth it
with complete love
For your wildness
turns into the
most incredible kindness
Just recently at work, my boss hired a 71 year old man with limited computer skills, and I was charged with the task of training him. My job centers around the computer, and he could barely turn the thing on. It was 2 very long nights of torture. The 2nd night was the absolute worst, after he made me want to pull all of my hair out. I struggled to be nice, and actually stopped being so patient with him, once he spilled the beans about how much he is making, and he asked if there was a possibility of a raise. Can you guess how much they started him at? The same as me. And you know what? I had to get a raise to get where I’m at. Here I am trying to train somebody with barely any computer skills, and I find out he started at the same rate of pay. That was kind of a kick in the nuts(figuratively speaking). So my boss had the distinct pleasure of training him for a night or two also, so now she’ll understand what I meant by, “he’s just not a good fit for this particular job”. But I also decided that I’m going to let her know that he spilled the beans, and how under-appreciated I felt when he told me that. I mean, I had to earn that pay. I have over 10 years experience. How come he was just handed it? And why was I working so hard to be a good employee all this time? #sometimesyoujustgottasayfuckit #havecourage #standupforyourself #dontletthemtakeadvantage #quoteoftheday
The men who have played a major role in helping to make Tide Risers a success are all fathers of strong women and girls. Coincidence? Maybe not. Read about them at the link in our bio.