It’s what you do with it that counts 😉
“Born For This”
How To Find The Work You Were Meant To Do
Written By: Chris Guillebeau
11 WAYS TO BE UNREMARKABLY AVERAGE 1. Accept what people tell you at face value. 2. Don’t question authority. 3. Go to college because you’re supposed to, not because you want to learn something. 4. Go overseas once or twice in your life, to somewhere safe like England. 5. Don’t try to learn another language; everyone else will eventually learn English. 6. Think about starting your own business, but never do it. 7. Think about writing a book, but never do it. 8. Get the largest mortgage you qualify for and spend 30 years paying for it. 9. Sit at a desk 40 hours a week for an average of 10 hours of productive work. 10. Don’t stand out or draw attention to yourself. 11. Jump through hoops. Check off boxes.
Change can be hard. Focus on what you will gain rather than what you have to sacrifice.
I think I'm ready for a little "About Me."
That's me up there, pic taken this afternoon. I'm 36, live in the Hudson Valley Region of New York State, and am a graduate of Fordham University with a Bachelor's degree in Psychology, and the State University of New York at New Paltz with a Master's Degree in Psychology (concentration in Counseling).
I received my Master's in 2005 and almost immediately started in my current field, working with adults with intellectual and other developmental disabilities. I am now the Director of Clinical-Behavioral Services at an outstanding agency, and I currently supervise a team of five crazy-talented behavioral clinicians. I am grateful to have been invited many times to speak at relevant conferences across the state of NY (and once in Nashville! Amazing bbq.) .
I'm a liberal militant feminist nightmare, with my life's mission is tattooed on my inner bicep: Smash the Patriarchy. I take it pretty fucking seriously, and will fight for equality at all costs. .
I'm a mental-health advocate, and work every day at ending the stigma towards those of us with mental illness. Mental illness should be no harder to admit to and seek help for than arthritis or chronic sinusitis. I've been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder since college, but have had symptoms since I was eight years old. None of this makes me "bad" in any way, I just have to work a little harder at basically everything (and can never ever ever forget to take my meds!)
I'm not a happy or healthy person by any stretch of the imagination, though I can and do admit my privilege (I know I'm super lucky to have an amazing partner, my own home, and a place right at the border of that middle-class tax bracket.) However, I'm going through an extra rough patch right now, and I'm really fucking hoping to find some answers in these 12 books.
Won't you join me and find out?
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Subconscious repetition is KEY!! Continuation of last weeks post!
Yesterday I talked about how the NEURO ALIGNMENT MODEL WORKBOOKS help your subconscious mind to automatically begin to rewire your brain out of addictions through reperition. Here is what I mean . . . because I edited Todd's books and workbooks, speak about it with clients and on social media and use the model in my life to help my daughter break our of her dysfunctional anxiety addiction, I am constantly taking about how to rewire the brain out of addiction. Because I am consistently repeating how to follow the process of rewiring the brain, I have through repetition taught my own subconscious mind how to rewire MY own brain out of its addictions.
When I get triggered now, I automatically look at what emotions came up, what action my brain wants me to engage in and I AUTOMATICALLY take Massive Action in the Opposite Direction from the addiction in my life (part of the 8 Step Process in the NEURO ALIGNMENT Model). I do it now so quickly and easily!!! It's creating massive shifts in my life and I had thought I was pretty put together before LOL LOL. Shows you there is always more to learn!! Miracles and opportunities flood into my life on a consistent basis.
The best thing IS . . . you can learn to make breaking out of your dysfunctional patterns and addictions second nature too, by picking up a copy of the NEURO ALIGNMENT MODEL BOOK and using one or all of our WORKBOOKS. This will give you the repetition necessary to integrate rewiring your brain from addictions into your subconscious mind and with Todd's 5 Step Protocol, you can form a habit of consistently rewiring your brain out of additive tendencies and patterns! Learn more on our website https://www.neuroalignmentmodel.com/shop
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To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
Someone asked me this morno for an example of what "having your shit together" looks like. I responded by saying;
"I think someone who has their shit together is simply someone who knows why they wake up each morning."
He probably expected me to reel off a whole bunch of jam to do with money, girls, house etc...
As I move through this life, I see more and more of the ideas around success start to fall through.
Particularly when it comes to status and wealth, I used to think that's what having your shit together meant.
But as I've travelled, experienced and met people with objectively a very well built temple in that department... they weren't always that happy. Now I'm not saying wealthy people aren't happy, just not as bullet-proof happy as I thought growing up.
What I have seen so far is this;
it's the people that have a clearly formed idea of why they wake up each morning, they seem to have their shit together. That deep understanding, it translates to the rest of their external life.
Of course this is just my personal account, but it makes sense.
Regardless of whether they have ten zeros or no zeros on their statement, they keep looking up. Their lives aren't determined by the external, but by their internal measure. The journey means more to them than the rewards so promised at the end.
So I keep checking in each morning to remember why I wake up. I think it's more important than most other measures in this world.
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Caution: cuteness overload... but why do those big brown eyes of adoration make us so damn happy?
Dogs are dedicated compassion’s of which you are their entire world. That wagging tail symbolises pure joy just to be in your presence but there is just as much evidence that they benefit us beyond that eager devotion.
Studies have shown that dogs help lower blood pressure, ease loneliness and help our children overcome allergies.
Research suggests that neurochemical changes (including the release of serotonin, prolactin and oxytocin) occur when humans interact with dogs helping people cope with depression and other stress related disorders.
So whether your throwing a tennis ball at the park or giving your treasured pup an extra long belly rub, remember how much they are doing for you too.
That’s quite a lot to be thankful for! .
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If you find yourself stuck in a rut and wanting more out of life, then this book is for you! Free for download for the next few days!
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there is no better feeling than coming home to my family to just chill in the same room for a while and do nothing 🛋 wherever you are I hope you find a place that feels like home, whether that’s with or without company - I hope you find some #peace
This post is dedicated to the man whom I believe to be the best father in the world — my dad. He introduced me to the Beatles, he taught me how to parallel park in an SUV on day 1 of drivers training, encouraged me to always be independent, and has NEVER raised his voice at me. He’s always loved me unconditionally, and have never asked for much from me, but I always knew that I wanted to try my best for him, and to make him proud .. because he was just the type of father that deserved nothing but loyalty and respect. Every day I cherish him more, thanks to the influence of another great man in my life — my husband. .
For years, I’d always observed how my husband would be so affectionate with his family, and envied the fact that his parents did not have any doubts about his love for them. At one point in my childhood, I had that affection with my parents too, but as I grew older, somehow that all changed, and the only times I recalled hugging my parents in the last 20 years was on my graduation day and then again on my wedding day. Both times, the hugs were long and emotional — a clear sign that they were long overdue. I talked to my husband about it, and he encouraged me to just hug my parents whenever I’d see them... and it felt scary because it was awkward and unfamiliar by now. But I realized what that fear of awkwardness was really holding me back from — from showing my parents how grateful I am for them. As a resolution, I’ve been actively putting in the effort to show my parents more affection when I see them — I don’t always succeed ... sometimes I miss opportunities .. and sometimes it felt awkward, but it never felt like it was unwanted. .
If you want your parents to know that you love them, and you’re wondering if you’re doing enough.. do more. All it takes is an “I love you”, a hug, a phone call “just because”.
Couldn't get it out of my head this weekend. Then shows up in a book I'm reading today.
Knowing is half the battle, did they ever tell us what the other half is?
Sending light and love as always. #lightworker #lightworkers
I find this very fitting on Father's day. This passage can apply to so many areas in life, but I will apply it to parenting. Everytime I react right away and yell at my children, I feel like a asshole. It really does make me feel good when I pause for a moment and handle the situation like a real man. Taking the time to break down the lesson that needs to be taught for personal development and enlightment. I would much rather give them "aha" moments, instead of fear based parenting. I love all 4 of my kids and never want them to be scared of me. I want them to know that I am a fair and just person. That they may not like what I have to to say, but they know in their hearts, that I'm giving them the truth about what they should do or how they should behave. That's what makes me feel good. When we do what makes us feel good on the inside, we help more, worry less, and build our self worth.
When you’re about to take an important decision, make sure you’re in prime physical state.
Our physicality influences greatly your mental and emotional state.
Make sure you adopt a powerful body posture, your blood is flowing and you smile ( even if you have to do it forcefully).
If you are in a low physical state and need to get to your decision quickly, use shortcuts: go for a run, climb few flights of stairs, do some pushups or squats, whatever gets your blood flowing.
Your decisions will be of much better quality when in a prime physical state!
Be the be, because NOW is the how shit gets done.
Suicide by Adventure.
Yes, we know we're strong. We've all been putting off this façade to prove not only everyone but ourselves that we can do it -that we can survive whatever it is we're going through.
But have you ever thought of breaking down? Of giving up? Or of throwing away everything just because you're tired and sick of it? I'm sure you did. And most of the time, admit it or not, you know it would've felt a lot better if someone was there -just to listen. Right? Or heck, we all know even someone else's presence alone can make everything feel entirely different. You know why? Because we feel that they care. We feel that we matter and that someone else took their time to see if we're doing okay.
So, hear me. Check up on your strong friend. Ask him/her how she is. Invite him/her to dinner. Schedule a workout day. Get ice cream or coffee. Anything. Anything to lighten the weight he/she is carrying. It'll mean a lot, I guarantee you. You might just help in saving a life. -A
Soooo true, spread the #love