I stayed home with my 25 weeker for 3.5 almost 4 yrs after he discharged and graduated NICU. I was determined to do everything in my power to keep him protected from unnecessary germs & illnesses, and help him thrive and grow strong regardless of what that looked like, and meant for us. We had to remain in lock down (isolation) for MONTHS after his discharge due to his chronic lung disease. He was almost a one and a half year old actual before we came out of lock down. I played no games about telling people to stay away if they were sick, sneezing, coughing, runny nose, post nasal drip, whatever I didn’t care. I did what I had to do to protect mine. He was 7 months actual, 4 months adjusted here. And, his health was FIRST PRIORITY for me. I didn’t care about anyone’s feelings. I only cared about ensuring that my child didn’t catch someone else’s illness that his little body wasn’t strong enough to fight off, and could do wayyy more damage to his health that would send him back to the hospital for re-hospitalization.
Preemie moms, don’t be afraid to tell friends, family members, and others to stay home and not visit when they’re ill. It’s vital to your baby’s health. If they get in their feelings, they’ll get over it. Don’t be afraid to tell them to wash AND sanitize their hands before touching and interacting with your preemie. People mean well, but sometimes you have to remind them and let them know that your fragile, preemie infant isn’t a full-term infant, and there’s certain things that have to be considered because of this.