Love this message ❤️#Repost @createthelove
It seems a tad unfair at times that we will pick people who aren’t good for us and who trigger our feelings of unworthiness doesn’t it? Despite the red flags and the behaviours we let slide, we still somehow seem to miss all the cues and alarm bells, don’t we? Maybe it's not that we miss them, it's that we don't act on them.
We will choose partners from our wounds, till we don’t. *Read that again. We choose partners from our wounds, till we don’t. As in, if we are attracted to people who are unavailable, unkind, fleeting, and/or generally not a good fit, we will keep picking them till we stop the pursuit of those who hurt us. Why? Because we are trying to heal an emotional injury from our childhood. An unavailable parent, maybe we didn’t fit in in school, maybe a parent left, maybe they drank… whatever it is, we heal it by making a choice that stops us from re-wounding ourselves.
If you’ve been struggling in love and are attracted to the wrong people… it’s a lot like an addiction. We crave what’s not good for us. To choose differently requires we go against everything the addiction pulls us towards and at the same time make the choices and move in the direction where we will finally get the love we crave. That love is unconditional and filled with boundaries and compassion. That love is the love you are required to give yourself to stop going towards people who are not good for you.
We are what we need. We are the healing. We are the answer. You no longer need to search for what you thought was outside of you. Now show up, make a decision you’ve known in your heart you’ve needed to make your whole life, and choose yourself. Till you do, why would anyone else? I know you can. Now do it. And then do it again. And then once you’ve passed all the tests and said “no” to what isn’t the love you seek, it’ll start to show up, because you did. #createthelove