Bad things happen to good people. It’s a fact. Why? God has a plan for all of us. Everything happens for a reason.
Today at work, I was working when a kid and his dad walked up with him. This kid was sort of new, but he’s been there for a few weeks. Anyway, the dad told me his son was really upset. Me, working at a tutoring place, immediately thought, oh okay, he just really doesn’t want to be here because, you know, it’s not every kids favorite place to go in the world. That’s totally normal, okay.
But then I could tell something was different. I looked at the dad and he said, “You know he has Aspergers right? All the noise and other kids are too much for him. Last time we had to leave because of that.” Oh wow, I thought, I never considered that, but it makes sense. Anyway, the kid started crying and knowing that he was struggling with that, I was able to help distract him and make him comfortable enough to where we eventually got on to his work like usual.
If I came across that situation before my struggles, I wouldn’t have known what to do. Now, however, I may not have Aspergers, but I surely have cried in panic in public places before. I know what that feels like. I felt so happy that I made a connection with this little boy. He doesn’t talk much and I realized that he started opening up to me more in general lately.
Working there for a year now, I’ve experienced a lot of moments like this. I’ve sat with a crying elementary school kid who was determined that he was so stupid that he would never amount to anything. I talked to him for 30 minutes trying to convince him that he’s more than just his grades. And I turned in another elementary kid one time who wrote how he wanted to die all over his papers. That one really crushed me because I had a pretty close relationship with him.
My point is, I went through my struggles. At the time, I didn’t know why God was putting me through it all, but now I’m seeing some of the light. Not only did I help those kids, but I’ve had many others speak to me after I’ve shared my mental health story with them and I was able to help them. Essentially, God put me through all of that so I could help others overcome it💕
So I went to Metro Diner for lunch today with my friends and since breakfast is my favorite meal of the day, I got breakfast for lunch and it was really good :)
My last time at Metro Diner was a bad experience for me with my eating disorder, but this time, I ordered food that I felt more comfortable eating and yes, it was a pretty large portion, but I successfully ate it without purging. One thing my dietitian challenged me to do lately (that my therapist has been trying to get me to do for awhile) is to not count calories. Yes, I knew that this portion was probably over my calorie “limit” given numbers that I already know, but I never checked it or recorded it. Usually I check calories as much as I can and track my total for the day and even week sometimes, but I didn’t do that today. Yeah, challenging yourself is uncomfortable, but that’s expected. But it’s also a step closer to full recovery💕
Listened to Florence & the Machine’s newest album for the first time today and came across this really profound lyric: “And it's hard to write about being happy, cause the older I get I find that happiness is an extremely uneventful subject.” Woah. There’s a lot to unpack there.
Unhappiness is what brought me to all of you reading this in the first place. I was lost and confused, pained and beaten down by mental illness, body image issues, and trauma. When we talk about those difficult things, we are met with a chorus of people giving us their condolences, maybe whispering about how we’ve gone “crazy,” or perhaps pitying us. Sadness is eventful. It’s something to talk about. When bad things happen, that’s when we open our mouths.
But think about how often we praise happiness. When something good happens to someone, do we first feel a sense of happiness for them? Or do we experience emotions of jealousy, resentment, or regret?
The same goes for a healing journey. People who don’t understand what it took to get to where you are now won’t be there to applaud you. Not that you’re asking for it. But the happiness you’re experiencing might not be understood. So it might not be seen as anything special.
But then there are those of us here, those who get it. Those who want to lift each other up, providing support and advice as we press on against all of the fears and doubts in our minds that try to pull us back down to the hole we dug ourselves into to hide from the pain we felt like we couldn’t control. I’ve been so grateful for the outpouring of support I’ve received from family, friends, and strangers since starting this account. I will never again think I am a single voice. There is a chorus behind me, advocating for the same things I am, finding ways to be inspired, and constantly fighting this good fight to bring happiness, peace, and joy back to our own lives.
“And here you are, living, despite it all.” You’ve made it this far. You won’t go back. Because the chorus behind you is there, ready to catch you when you fall and lift you back onto the path towards happiness. Accept the love you deserve. Don’t even think twice about it.
"After waiting for months for treatment, I started to realise that I didn’t want to be controlled by anorexia; I wanted my old life back." - @daisyyymayyy ⠀
New blog post up on mentalhealthmugs.com (link in bio). Shoutout to the incredible Hannah Brown of @anearto_hear for creating this story-sharing blog series around mental illness recovery ❤️
There’s something to be said for blooming where you are planted. When fame and fortune don’t come your way, or when perhaps you feel you are overlooked (as I often do) it is important to remember you are extraordinary in your ordinary little world. Bloom and be beautiful no matter who is watching! God knows you and me by name and we are special because he made us!
Tackling a 10 hour road trip today from Connecticut to West Virginia. Heading to some climbing and boating with friends. This marks me being half way done with my summer position. It gives me time for a breather and time to reflect. I’m also getting grumpy. Driving. Getting up early. Being antsy about getting there can do that to a person. But with frequent stops and switching driving it hasn’t been difficult to manage. Plus my copilot is pretty cool 😎
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This is one of the biggest reasons why I think mental health should be more acceptable to talk about and it doesn't make sense to me why sometimes mental illness is seen as such a taboo subject. The brain is a vital organ of the body, and just like any other organ of the body, the health and care of the brain is such an important part of our wellbeing and problems in the health of our minds can surface and do damage to our bodies as well as our lives. Mental illnesses are just as important and relevant as physical illnesses, and the care of our minds is just as important and should be talked about just as much as the care of our bodies. While mental health can be affected by behavior, trauma, childhood and socio-economic situations, much of mental health can be affected by the chemistry of our brains and our physical health. The health of our brains and bodies are interconnected, and there are several ways we can take care of our bodies that also may improve our mental health.
The brain is just like any other organ of the body. It can face problems that affect our wellbeing just as much as other organs of the body. There is nothing to be ashamed of about a mental illness, just like there's nothing to be ashamed of about a physical illness. Don't be afraid to take care of yourselves 💖
What do you think? Do you think mental health is the same level as importance as physical health? Do you think the two interconnect? Comment below!
6 hours ago110
In all honesty, it wasn’t until I met Dru (and she sat me down and explained this to me) that I really grasped the fact that nobody is perfect.💁🏼♀️
Growing up, I never really heard any adults tell me when they made a mistake or when they were wrong, only when I was; I think I took this hyper-literally, because I grew up thinking that I was the only one who made mistakes (go figure!)😩
On the surface this concept sounds so simple, but for the longest time I really didn’t understand why everyone seemed to be doing “fine” but me. They all seemed to be making the “right” choices, at the “right” place and at the “right” time - and I was just lost, without any answers.🙏🏼
Dru really helped me understand that nobody gets it right all the time - but trying in and of itself is what matters the most. Since I’ve known this, I’ve felt a bit more freedom to make mistakes, to struggle and fail and win sometimes because nobody has the answer key, and that’s okay.💯
Not to mention, it helps when you have an amazingly supportive partner right by your side. I love you so much, babe!😘
🌸🌱🍃Throwback to me being, well...me in some botanical gardens in Hamburg in April🌵🌳 Despite the fact that I was fortunate enough to travel a lot this year, and I think I visited 4 different countries within the space of 2 months, this was the point when I became heavily depressed for the first time.
I cannot attribute my depression to one specific factor, however since I’ve been getting better, and since I’ve had a lot (potentially too much🤦🏼♀️) time to reflect, and I’ve realised that my unhappiness was caused by trying to find happiness in external sources.
I started to feel like I wasn’t good enough, and over the past year I’ve wasted so much money, time, emotions and planning on things which I thought would make me happier and I thought would make me a better person. Whether it be trying to change my appearance, signing up to different things, travelling, investing myself in relationships which weren’t good for me, or just small things like pressuring myself to go above and beyond what was expected - ultimately nothing made me happier, it just made me sadder.
I don’t even want to say that I’ve wasted money, emotions or time on different purchases, relationships, experiences or plans, because the outcome is that I have learned that I can’t try to find happiness in other sources. It’s strange to think that a few months ago I could have safely said that I had everything I could have ever wanted - a degree with guaranteed employment, a good amount of savings, great friends, a car, in good physical health, travel opportunities etc etc, yet I was heavily depressed
On paper, my life looks so much worse than it was 6 months ago (hello love island pls recruit me👀) - but I am so much happier. It’s actually weird to think how content I am right now, knowing that I should be stressed about everything going “wrong”, but I just don’t see the point in obsessing over little details anymore💁🏼♀️
Of course I’m not 100% there, have to stop myself in my tracks to rationalise & avoid getting worked up, but I can safely say that I’m currently at a point where I’m fine with everything right now, and I know that you can be happy regardless of external things😇
What is mental health? What are the mental illnesses?
Some think it's stress, others maybe think being mindfucked but everyone uses the glorified word 'depression', no matter what they think is the definition.
This term is used so casually that being sad or upset is often and unknowingly replaced by the famous D word.
Whereas, mental illnesses include anxiety disorder, eating disorder, personality disorder, mood disorder, OCD, PTSD and etc (Google them).
Why doesn't anybody think or say that mental illness is a gradual process, it has steps, one just doesn't get into depression or has mental illness. A lot is going on with that person and that too over a period of time that piles on, leaving him/her in their current state.
So I feel we should address the journey and not the end, we should take a backward journey step by step and solve each problem before it turns into a disaster for the both the person and the ones close to them.
And depression is an illness and like all illness it also requires a professional. So therapy/counselling is a must and don't let the negative thoughts build inside you. Let out your emotions at every stage.
For example- if you're stressed, then discuss it with your peers
If you're angry, then let it out to whoever you're angry at
Even if nobody is listening, you will feel light, like a huge burden is off your shoulders, you'll definitely be more at peace with yourself and will be able to rationalize the situation better.
Hope none of you have had to battle depression (or still are battling) but if you do, try what I suggested and let me know ( in comments) if it worked for you. Also tell me what does work for you?
People have said the same thing but never really discussed it. We are aware of it but are still skeptical about it. So let's take our step and discuss it.
I’m living with Bipolar Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and it causes a lot of unpredictability in my daily life. My “Mental Health Survival Kit” helps me overcome the unpredictability that mental illness can cause.
What is A Mental Health Survival Kit?:
To me, a Mental Health Survival Kit is a collection of items that can help a person cope with their mental illness.
What Type of Items Are in My Kit?:
There are two types of items in my kit:
1) Items that help me cope with anxiety.
2) Items that I need due to my obsessive compulsions.
Visit my blog, link in @uncustomaryhousewife bio, to read this post and all of my other Mental Health blog posts.
10 hours ago116
Being a prisoner of one’s own mind is terrifying experience. If you know someone is going through this, please don’t hesitate to contact us!
My face when they say God is a myth...😆
Today I’ll be posting on the tube ways to get out of your depression that helped me get out of mine as well as a little bit of my background story with depression and mental illness.
I’ll keep you updated when it’s posted but make sure you’re subscribed so you can get a notification! 💕
YouTube channel name: Ixchelle Lowell
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It’s with so much joy and excitement that I *officially* welcome you to my blog space!🎉 <> 💡I’ve been praying about seasons of life, and as I start the next season of motherhood and spending more time at home (vs at work), I can’t imagine a more fitting time to grow and push myself through writing for you. 💕You’ll find tons of content on the blog. My dream is that it’s a place to go to for resources and encouragement if you’re coping with stress, depression, relationship problems...or whatever else life throws at you. .
🙏As women of Christ, we are so incredibly gifted and equipped to love others and love ourself. It’s been an honor over the past few months to share some thoughts and process issues with you. .
Can’t wait to keep doing it! .
Click around, explore, and give me feedback! .
With love, Dr. Rose
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Happy Hump Day, folks! I honestly cannot believe that I have over 5,000 followers now. It’s total madness to me! You all inspire me to keep going every day, so to celebrate & day thank you, I’m giving away a £25 voucher for my favourite workout store @sweatybetty . I know it’s a little different to most SW giveaways, but it represents where I am in the process right now. And it’s good to do things differently, right? 💁🏻♀️
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This is a symptom of bpd that I don’t hear mentioned that often and I wonder if people relate.
•Joining a gym, going 5 days a week for a while then you just stop, nah, lost interest.
•Considering buying a pet so you buy all the equipment then decide actually no, bad idea, lost interest.
•Starting an art project, thinking you could actually sell the crafts as they are quite good, buy all the bits to only get bored and not bother, lost interest. •Having a massive sort out in your home cause you’re feeling extra productive only to get half way through and get overwhelmed. So you stop, lost interest.
These are just some of the things I do a lot that show I struggle to stick to one thing. I’m really awful at finishing what I started as most of the things I start are done through impulse and once that impulse has disappeared, I loose interest very quick.
It can be a pain as I spend a lot of money on specific things and then decide I don’t want to do it anymore. It’s very much black and white, all or nothing behaviours.
But, it also has its positives because I am passionate about things and I put my all into everything, even if it is for a moment at least I’m always learning and keen to try new things. But I’m learning to correct this black and white thinking style but trying to delay my ideas for a few days before acting on them. It has helped massively.
Does anyone with #BPD relate or is this just a weird thing I do?