What I would rather be thinking of is the 29/3
However, some days, I don’t stop thinking of the number 1.
The 1 person who I lost to suicide. The 1 person I wonder if I let down. The 1 person who truly broke my heart in so many ways, but honestly never meant to. Unlike all the other men who have broken my heart over the years and had no regard for me. This was so very different.
The 1 person who should be celebrating his birthday on the 29/3. With me. Our birthday. The day we shared the gift of life. Which was also so quickly taken away.
The 1 person who falls into another number: 2866. Those 2866 people; they were someone’s 1 person too in 2016.
In 2016, 2866 is the number of humans who were consumed by suicide. 2866 people were all someone’s 1 Person who are no longer here.
What do we need to do as a community to reduce that 2866? How do we remove the stigma from mental health? How do we show our family/friends/loved ones/colleagues that we no longer accept 2866 as a number of our losses, but as a number of people who need to be told- it’s ok to not be ok. That we are here for them? We can help them?
I don’t want to think that anyone has to lose their 1 person.
Maybe, just maybe, 1 Person can make a difference. And maybe, if we all think we are that 1 Person, maybe we too can change the life of someone who is not ok.
Be the difference in that 1 Person’s life. You may make it that they are someone’s 1 Person forever.
#suicideprevention #mensmentalhealthawareness #pukaup #livin #makeadifference #dontaccept2866 #itsokaynottobeokay #jjfelix #imissjj #myfavouriteginger #birthdaysmayneverbethesameagain #whenyoumisssomeoneeveryday #thenewnormal
Some days are hard, others are a fucking mess. What ever the day throws, before you toss in the towel, pick up the phone, call or text a loved one, tell them it’s all turning to shit, joke about it if you have too, but it just might be the light that switches you back in the game.
I don’t really know what my issue was today, nothing actually went ‘wrong’ but all I could hear was screaming and nothing was going to plan, a text later, I ran, I flew out the door and hit the pavement until the land turned to sea. There I sat for a moment, watched the water, felt the breeze, caught my breath and felt like me again.
Take the time out. Run away, re-group then return. It seems too hard at first, but it’s so worth it ❤️ #run #clearthehead #mentalhealth #timeout #regroup #water #breeze #itsokaynottobeokay #freshair #goodfeels #justdoit #slowdown #breathe #thinkpositive #believeinyourstrength #bekindtoyourself #releasethesteam #turnpanictopeace
GIRL I would love a world where you can call up your place of work and say... I won’t be coming in today. My depression has hit me like a complete shit storm and I don’t feel I could even take a shower today. Babe having to call work up and make bullshit reasons up... I have a sickness bug, my hamster is stuck on its wheel... not cool. Lover what changes would you like to see? My sassy honeypot let’s start conversation that could help others 🤘🏼
I’ve started my Mummy MOT running assessment and I’m so excited at the thought of getting back to running properly. After my eldest daughter was born, I hit the road weeks afterwards and was doing 5k runs at least twice a week. ✋ NOT GOOD!!!! I soon realised that I couldn’t keep it up as my pelvic floor couldn’t handle it. (Lots of pee in pants scenarios!). I probably did more harm than good. 😣 For this reason, I stopped exercising and, “quelle surprise”, my mood changed and I felt low. I need exercise to keep me feeling up! 🏃♀️🙌 _
After my son's birth I was determined to get back to exercise sensibly. I booked myself in for a @mummy_mot
I recommend every woman does this after labour - she checked my stomach muscles, my posture and my pelvic floor. I had a tiny prolapse at the back so I needed to really work on my pelvic floor exercises before I could do any running. After a few weeks I went back and the prolapse had gone! 😁
I’m now doing a very gentle running programme and, although it’s slow (6 reps of 4mins 30 walk then 30mins run), I’m loving being out on the road, running gear on, music in my ears and time for me).
👍🏼🙌 🏃♀️💃🏃♀️✨🙌💪😁 #ownyourwellness #runningkeepsmesane #exercise
Food for thought
Do you pay attention to how you communicate with other people? Do you think about words that you’re using and the way you speak?
I never thought too much about that, till the day I became a mum
I’m so aware of the fact that everything I do will influence my son some way. Not only action but also words. I want him to grow up being confident and knowing his value. I think that’s something that lots of us struggle with less or more. And that’s something that impacts our life in so many different ways
This is a huge topic, so in this post I will touch only one part of it, but it’s something that is really important to me
What do you do when baby/toddler/kid cry?
I live in Australia, I think kids have lots of freedom here, lots of possibilities to explore the world on their own, which is really great
I saw this kind of situation hundreds of times, example: kid falls while running too fast, or just not being coordinated enough. Obviously starts crying, parent or caregiver responds with words “Stop crying, up you get, nothing happened. There is no need to cry” .
Why we don’t accept them crying? why we won’t let them to express their emotions? Why we tell them that nothing happened?
This is just a simple example, but can be translated to so many different situations .
I know that lots of people don’t even think about it, they say that cause their parents said same things to them, cause they hear their friends saying same things to their kids, etc.
But if you reflect on that, by doing this we are teaching kids from young age that they are not right in what they feel, that they should not express their emotions, that some emotions they have are better than others (we accept them when they are happy but we don’t want to see them crying)
How they can become confident when they learn that they are not right in such a simple and obvious thing like feeling sad, hurt or just unhappy about something?
Just to be clear I don’t judge anyone and I don’t want to sound like I know everything (cause I don’t 🤪). I just want to bring your attention to that, cause probably you’ve never even thought about it... Share your thoughts if you want 🙏