When somebody tells you that you can't do something don't let that stop you.
People can only relate to things based on their own experiences and filters.
So what they actually mean is that they don't think THEY could do it.
It doesn't exist as a possibility for them, so therefore they can't relate to you doing it either.
That doesn't mean it isn't a possibility in your world.
Whatever space they are coming from, be it from fear, insecurity, jealousy or ignorance, accept that they just don't know what YOU are capable of.
Then go out there and prove them wrong!
I’ve been baking 🐣👩🏻🍳 it was a pretty simple recipe but I loved the process. I think it’s because I didn’t stress about how it turned out, I took my time and enjoyed every moment. I’m usually hurrying through life, ready to do the next thing on my list. But today I slowed down and I was happy just doing what I could 💗
It's been a funny old week of highs and lows. You'd think maybe i'd be used to it by now, and in some ways I am. It is no longer a surprise to me when I find on a Monday morning that i'm crying uncontrollably, struggling to accept that this cycle of dark moods may never end for me, to feeling entirely enthused and confident about a life running my own creative business by nightfall on Tuesday. This is not normal for the general population, I know, but it has become nearly normal for me.
The moods themselves are not what scare me. I've spent enough time in my head with my thoughts in life so far, have experienced enough highs and lows, enough time alone, that i'd be confident saying I am pretty self-aware at this point. It is the physiology of my symptoms that currrently scare me the most.
I've lived many years with depression, much of my adult life in fact, but not with the physical ailments. These have only begun presenting themselves in the last two or three years, growing increasingly worse over time, and I am far from being at peace with them. They are still so startling to me. Connecting my mind with my body and learning to listen to my physical self is definitely something I need to aspire to in the coming months.
But for now, at 9pm on a Saturday evening as I sit atop a double decker bus driving through Central London, I do not have all the answers, nor do I look for them. I am on the bus, I love getting the bus and I love London! I love the playlist I'm listening to, 'Melatonin', a collection of all the songs that help me to fall sleep and to feel calm, all the greats from My Bloody Valentine to The Smiths to Radiohead. Many of these songs are sad or bittersweet but tonight they lift me up.
As with the seemingly never ending Winter we are experiencing in the UK right now, we must all remember, always, that blue skies will come again.
I don't think that it's the end,
But I know we can't keep going.
Oh, 'cause blue skies are coming,
But I know that it's hard.
Be Ruthless About What Doesn't Matter
One of the hardest things to do in life is to say "no." Whether it be to invitations, requests, obligations, or anything else that comes your way
What's even harder to say no to is the time-consuming emotions we have such as anger, excitement, obsessions, and distraction. None of our impulse thoughts feel like a big deal in isolation, but run amok, they become a committed habit just like anything else in our life
If you aren't careful, these are the exact things that can over run and consume your life. Ever wonder how you can get time back? Or feel less busy?
Start by learning how to say no: "No, thank you"
"No, I don't want to get caught up in that"
"No, that doesn't sound right for me at this moment" "No, I just can't do that right now with my other current focuses"
You might hurt some feelings, and maybe even turn some people off from you. It also might feel uncomfortable in the beginning if you're a perpetual pleaser. But the more you say no to the things that don't matter, the more you can say yes to the things that do
Saying no allows you to live YOUR life, not anyone else's. It's not selfish to put yourself first, it's only selfish if you expect everyone else to put you first
#ruthless #beruthless #truth #no #motivation #inspiration #coach #selfish #makeithappen #success #health #mindset #growth #growthmindset #teamgarner #dangarnernutrition
I totally forgot to take a photo of today’s #bacheloretteparty
who I taught Foreplay workshop for, so here’s one from the BJ workshop I did last year in the basement of a restaurant.
The wait staff conveniently kept finding reasons to come form and hang around. 😂
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Prefer to just attend one that I’m hosting, like my upcoming essential oils for sex? bit.ly/eventspbk or link in profile.
HIGH REPS AREN'T BETTER FOR FAT LOSS 🚫
A common misconception for people trying to lose fat or 'tone up' is that you should do high reps with weights or resistance exercises.
Muscle is a metabolically active tissue, meaning it burns off loads of calories all day long, even when you're at rest, helping you stay lean.
To build muscle tissue, or even to keep it when dieting, you should train with moderately heavy weights in the 6- to 12-rep range, sticking to multi-joint compound movements.
Studies have also shown that training like this has the greatest effect on keeping your metabolism elevated for as long as 24 hours after your workout.
Bottom line - rep ranges should be the same whether you're trying to gain muscle or lose fat.
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The only way that you're gonna get what you want in life is by working hard for it. There's no shortcut - fuck that. You're someone who makes shit happen. So make shit happen.
Happy Saturday everyone! So this is what I'm listening to while working. Love this new jam!❤ @tonibraxton
Attended my very first ever perfume making class. I used to dream of travelling to #Grasse
to learn this art but @fragrancebar
made it possible right here in Naija. The entire session was delightful including the refreshments...remembering the delicious agbalomo juice 😊
What a fantastic way to acknowledge the belated #nationalfragranceday
This is my painting. I painted over the old one which was dated and dark, and dictating the room in the wrong direction.
The fixed mindset says your house “is what it is.” You might clean, but if it doesn’t sell fast you’re discouraged and feedback will feel like personal criticism.
The growth mindset says “we can always improve.” It teaches us we can impact self and world. You see the results of your effort and know the process is the key. You seek out what effort you can make to showcase your home to buyers. You say “it is what I can make it.” Science is clear, a growth mindset brings achievements. The fixed mindset stands still.
We all experience both. If you catch yourself cleaning like you would for company and just opening the door, (“they’re either going to buy it or they’re not.”), you may be in the Fixed Mindset zone. Shift a little. That feedback is not a criticism, its opportunity to improve.
I’m not a painter but I like how this turned out and I had fun making it. How can you surprise yourself? Don’t miss an opportunity to sell your house. Its Saturday. If you have an Open House tomorrow, this is the time to capture opportunity. It is not what is is. It is what you make it. Go get ‘em!
#mindsellyourhouse #growthmindset #opportunities #itiswhatitis #noitisnot #itiswhatyoumakeit
Wow has it been a week (just a week?) of up and down and in between and over and out and
Woah. I’m dizzy just thinking about it.
Journeying through Healing Husbands Hashimoto’s
Toddler eating highlighters
Wait what? 🙊
Hey, when you’re holding 17 balls you’re bound to drop a few. And that’s where toothbrushes hold their glory.
It’s all good Sister’s. Well not all of it, but most of it. And the parts that aren’t bring something of value with them too, always.
We’ve made it this far
And we’ll keep on
Answering the call to life
Waking up (and not just from the pillow)
Again, and again. .
In our bones,
That we’re closer to the top
Because of the bottom work we’re doing now
Beautiful Imagery: @Oliviaherrickdesign
Getting creative and passionate about something and then telling the WRONG people can cost you!
Let me tell you from the heart ❤️....because I hope it helps someone out of a similar situation.
I had an insane vision in Spain 🇪🇸 last year and let me tell you my soul was ALIVE with excitement!! I was literally ON FIRE 🔥 for my purpose and how many people I was ready to help!
But then I talked to some of "those friends" 🙄🤦🏻♀️ If you listen to people who are in a negative place themselves and don't really want to see you prosper, it will hold you back 🖐🏼
I knew at the time I shouldn't have done it, I'm a sucker for sharing my visions with anyone and everyone 🤗 but I could literally feel my vibe being drained by them and the seeds of doubt were planted 😩
Isn't it funny that I'm now going back to that thing I didn't do that I wanted to do and was so excited about because I let a few people's unsupportive comments and opinions stop me! For real, that s**t can destroy your dreams! Your heart knows what it wants to do - it won't be subdued for long - just trust it ❤️❤️ Some friends are with you for a season, a reason or a lifetime. The lifetime one's are the ones that take your idea, amplify it and breathe life into it.....listen to THOSE people!!! They want to see you prosper with or without them because they genuinely love you!
I would like to publicly apologise to all those lifetime friends who supported my desire to play to my strengths, amplified it and spoke life into it who then had to stand by and watch me allow other people to get into my head and destroy it.
Mistakes help us learn, not learning from them is the biggest mistake.
It won't be happening again 💯💪🏻👌🏻 #personalgrowth #challenges #growthmindset #smallbusinessowners #friendship #people #mindset #doubtkills
"You are practically powerless without gratitude"
This I believe! Earth-shatteringly grateful for another chance to show up and sit in my seat of truth!🤓
"Happiness is being married to your best friend." #riskhappy
What’s this dapper young dad doing in my feed? He’s standing wise and strong in representation of an incredible work at home opportunity that I said yes to recently. It’s my side gig, but the potential for myself or anyone to make massive life changes with this company is enormous. If you think you might be a good fit for my team, send me a message and I’d be happy to send you back an invite link to listen. Monday March 26th 8:30 EST. If you listen and it’s not your thing, no big deal, you’ll be one step closer to finding the Thing that is yours! 💫🌎💫
Prepping my throat to lead a group of Tony Robbins students on a personal development Mastermind today. About to start and I’m SO excited. Wish me luck!
From the chapter on Aries in my book Man & Cosmos ❤
"As the first sign of the zodiac, Aries is above all the initiatory flame that beckons the cycle of creation. It is a birthing with force, and is reflective of the divine impulse that, by virtue of its will, advances towards physical manifestation. In Aries, we are dealing with the conceptual impetus that drives forward the will to be. As this sign energy correlates to the very beginning of the life cycle, it is helpful to explore the esoteric version of the divine spirit’s earliest descent to the earth plane.
Prior to the expression of spirit within physical form, there occurred an involution of spirit into matter. According to occultist Thomas Burgoyne, the cosmic descent initially invigorates the mineral kingdom, producing crystals and rock formations that we today see as imbued with spiritual properties. By the virtue of cosmic intelligence driving energy configurations to manifest through simple material forms (such as crystals) towards those that are more complex (such as humans) the spirit contained within the mineral kingdom begins its ascent and guides the development of progressively more intricate forms of being. After passing through the plant and animal kingdoms it manifests as man, the final incarnation of the spiritual essence and the creation that stands in between the material and spiritual realms. In the experience of man, the spirit continues its evolution through our trials in the arena of consciousness. When cosmic orChrist consciousness is achieved, the spirit finally reunites with its pure expression (the Purusha within), and the cycle comes full circle..." Continued in comments 👇
Have a beautiful Saturday everyone 🌈
Artwork by @merakilabbe
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Let em talk. Silence their negativity, hate, and side comments with your work ethic and determination. Don’t let their visions or ideas dictate your reality. Create YOUR vision. Create YOUR reality. Take pride in what you do. Keep workin. Leave your mark.
The thing when your in a committed and faithful relationship and it ends, you think about all the girls you curved lol. But then you think about all the money you about to save lol. Then you think of the good times and realize it wasn't a waste of time or a mistake if you learned from it. Still on the hunt for my future queen now lol, but in the meantime I'm going to put my focus on being the type of king she deserves. #noregrets #lessonlearned #growthmindset #greatmeditation #reflection
Computer, Coffee, Candles... the perfect situation for a Saturday study session.
spread for next week. Yeah. Went a little overboard with stickers. But in my defense, my daily to-do lists will be half as long as usual since school is out. Plus, I had all those Easter stickers. #plannerbabe #beforethepen
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