Get you a man that still looks at you and smiles the same way he did when he first fell in love with you...admittedly it’s not at all that easy! We both had to change a lot for each other as we fell in love and matured together. Wanna know a secret to building a solid relationship? Figure out your relationship needs and personal values. If your needs in relationship are being met, you feel complete in relationship and are more inclined to fulfill your partners needs. Example: I love words of affirmation (which is actually a love language. Google “5 love languages” for an amazing quiz for u and loved one).. I need to feel in control, independence (in the sense of tapping into my individual self), and quiet time (away from noise and chaos). Hubby respects these and makes time to fulfill these. Hubby loves validation and physical affection, so I make to sure to remind him how proud I am of him and give him those hugs and love!
The other component is open communication. You can’t help one another if you don’t talk. In a relationship you often become best friends and that means bouncing ideas off each other, being there to vent when you have a bad day. That all is communication.
And there needs to be commitment, if one partner is hesitant to work on the relationship or themselves, it won’t work. You need each person to take a bit of a leap of faith, and be willing to look into themselves and the relationship. Admit their weaknesses and where they are lacking, while also admitting where they need to put more effort.
After almost 10 years hubs and I have had our share of highs and lows, fights and make ups. We aren’t perfect, we’ve thrown shit, said things we didn’t mean. But We always took a minute to cool down, then work on the relationship together. It meant flexing for the other, saying sorry even tho we didn’t feel like it, and trying to step out of our selfish thoughts and stepping into our partners mindset to see their side.
It’s constant work but when you find someone who works as hard as you do on it, it becomes purposeful, fulfilling positive outcome work.
🌱 Despite what Instagram may show, i believe that no mom is immune to struggles... 😕we have our share of rough mornings, bad attitudes, grumpy days, and sinful responses over here.⠀
And as much as I hate that sin effects our daily lives (whether it’s a kid’s sin or my own), I’m becoming SOOOOOOOO GRATEFUL for moments that are at least a little bit...less of a struggle. 🙌🏻⠀
It’s on those days you see a little light at the end of tunnel of training and discipline and know that you are going to be ok. 💕⠀
If you’re in the trenches I’m right there with you, Mama. Let’s do the next thing, plant the next seed of faithfulness. 🌱