Reposting again from my facebook memories from the other day 💜 (RP from @chronic_khaleesi
I wanted to write a post about quite a sensitive subject and one I believe has such a huge role to play in the harsh judgment towards chronic and invisible illnesses.
A couple of things people have said to me have stuck out in my mind over the years, 'your not as bad as Stephen Hawkins!!!' and 'at least your not in a wheelchair all the time or paralysed'
First off there is a HUGE difference between pain, illness, fatigue, mobility, mental illness, learning disabilities, neurological issues ect.. and the effects each have on quality of life, we cannot say which one is 'worse' because they are NOT the same.
For example someone with moderate to severe M.E who can walk but only for very short amount of time has extreme fatigue, sensory overload, dizziness spends 80% of their time in bed ... The list goes on, but on the face of it looks well is then compared to say a paraplegic or amputee who on the face of it does not look 'well'. Yes their mobility can be 'worse' but maybe once they are in their wheelchair or have prosthetics on they are 'relatively' pain free, have energy to push themselves around/walk or even run on prosthetics , work, maybe even do sports, don't get me wrong im NOT implying M.E is worse at all (each ailment has its own set of challenges and severities) im just saying we cannot compare because they are NOT the same.
Someone could have crippling anxiety and agoraphobia that they haven't left their home in years but that won't be seen as debilitating as say .... Motor neurones disease, I believe they CAN both be as equally debilitating but in completely different ways. People will say 'but you can't die from anxiety, depression, bipolar ect ect... All I can say is people do die every day from mental illnesses. Per year 8 MILLION people die from mental illness. Even if they did it to 'themselves' it's not them it's the mental illness that has killed them.
One day I hope society stops judging and comparing illnesses and disabilities against each other without true knowledge of what each and every one involves, ignorance can be extremely damaging!